This Week’s Letters to the Editor – Blog

Letter:

My girlfriend is becoming very rude with me, even in public. This afternoon at a very busy restaurant, she humiliated me in front of everyone. I asked her if she was sure she wanted a certain item on the menu and she immediately went crazy. She assumed I was implying that she is gaining weight but I swear I wasn’t! To be honest, I couldn’t afford what she wanted, but I didn’t want to come right out and say that. I don’t know how to get her to start treating me better.

Response:

Dear ___, I’m sorry you had to go through that embarrassing scene. My first piece of advice is to write down in a notebook, or type into a Word document, all the good things that drew you to your girlfriend in the first place. Second, be firm, but not rude, with her. This ties in with 3. Learn how to communicate totally and honestly with her. She deserves that, and so do you. If she is the right girl for you, then good communication should build a very healthy relationship. Tell her you couldn’t afford it, and that she looks perfect just the way she is. But also tell her that you are not going to tolerate public scenes. If she has a problem with you, justified or not, she can take it up with you in private. If your girlfriend does not respect you, there is no future for your relationship. I wish you well!

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