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In today’s blog, Sunday, June 10, 2012, I talked about it infuriates me when people do not respond to my texts quickly, etc. They use the excuse that they are busy. But I have talked to a lot of people about this subject, and trust me, there is a lot of dissatisfaction on the topic, not just with me. Yes, people are busy, but it takes a minute to text someone and explain you are busy with something. And no one is busy 24/7, every day of the week. And one more thing: men need to remember that women really notice this. If a man does not respond quickly to a text, then he is seen as being not a good communicator. This spells death for any relationship between a man and a woman. 

If you are a student in university and depressed about how long it is before you graduate, remember that people who are graduating are also stressing for different reasons. They have a lot of new responsibility on their hands. They have to think about careers, where to move to, marriage, raising a family, etc. Sometimes we do not realize how lucky we are to have the opportunity to be students. It is a time of exploration, of uncovering our identities, and having the freedom to take the time to find out who we really are. We should take advantage of it as much as possible because there will come a day when we will miss such freedoms.


I’ve noticed in the past that when guys get a girlfriend, they tend to lose contact with all of their other friends. This is not a good idea. If the relationship ends, as it often does, then the guy starts contacting his old friends all the time. Their very understandable reaction is to ask where he was when things were going well for him? People do not like to feel like you are only getting in touch with them when you need them. So if you are in a relationship, whether you are a guy or a girl, man or woman, please remember that your friends need to hear from you all the time, not just after a break up!


A recent experience I had underlines the importance of me for communication. A friend of mine on Facebook deleted me because I had been making negative comments on his status updates. I never thought about it; I was just expressing my opinion without realizing how he would perceive the situation. I was wrong to post negative comments on his wall, and I think it would have been better if, instead of deleting me, he would have told me what he was displeased with so I had the chance to stop my bad behaviour. If we communicate clearly with others, almost any situation can be handled so that it does not get blown out of proportion. Knowledge is power, and other people can be one of our greatest sources of knowledge.